We’ve all been there. The socks are on the wrong way. The toast is too crunchy. The meltdown is brewing—and the day hasn’t even started. When children resist directions—whether it’s getting dressed, eating what’s offered, or navigating big emotions—it’s rarely about defiance. It’s about communication, autonomy, and unmet needs. And one of the most powerful tools we have in these moments is choice. Research shows that offering children structured choices: Promotes autonomy and